Parents
Raising Children Fortified with Self-Respect
Raising Respectful Children
in a Disrespectful World
As you raise your children, here's a thought-provoking question for you to ponder: “What kind of adult do you want your child to become?”
In a compilation of surveys surrounding that question, parents answered, “Kind, confident, successful, good work ethic, respectful, honest, Christian, generous, and a good citizen.”
But too many of today’s children are growing up to become entitled, rude, arrogant, dishonest, lazy, ungrateful, lost, and worst of all, miserable.
To overcome this sad, but threatening reality, I am here to encourage you to:
Choose self-respect and forget self-esteem as your parenting goal.
Establish respect as the foundation of your home.
Coach not cheerlead your children.
Use effective discipline rather than ineffective punishment.
Champion respect by striving to be the person you want your children to become.
My deepest desire is to help you raise children fortified with self-respect who will be able to withstand the temptations of the world to become all they are meant to be.
Manners of the Heart
at the Table
Manners of the Heart At the Table teaches children respectful behavior that supports and improves their relationships with others. When your children learn to serve others before they serve themselves at the dinner table, it becomes natural to put the needs of others ahead of their wants on the playground. When children learn to listen and participate in conversation at the table, they more readily listen and participate in class and at home. When children learn table manners, they learn how to respect others and themselves.
Speaking Topics
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FOR PARENTS, GRANDPARENTS, AND GUARDIANS
This powerful message offers the hard truth about today’s society while giving hope for tomorrow through practical guidance, real life examples, and wisdom for raising today’s children. For parents who want to foster strong values, Jill offers sound advice from scriptural principles as she motivates parents to take back control and re-establish the standards that have been slowly disappearing from our homes and society. Based on the award-winning book, you’ll find the parenting answers that have eluded you. For the sake of your children, this talk will help you:
• Be the kind of person you want your children to become.
• Replace self-esteem with self-respect as your parenting goal.
• Engage your children, not entertain them.
• Coach, not cheerlead your kids.
• Set boundaries without building walls between you and your children.
• Enroll your family in the School of Respect.
* Can be presented as a six-week parent study. Study guide & facilitator guide available.
* Popular as a Family Weekend Retreat. (See below for more details)
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PARENTS’ NIGHT | WORKSHOP | SEMINAR
A cheerleader can praise a player on the field but can’t teach that player how to make the goal. It is the coach who teaches the player how to follow the rules, make the goal and win the game. In this workshop, parents learn how to coach their child with encouragement and training that will enable them to win in the game of life.
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PARENTS’ NIGHT | WORKSHOP | SEMINAR
An action taken to change an inappropriate behavior constitutes effective discipline. Too often, we choose a form of punishment that may stop the wrong behavior in the moment, but doesn’t bring about a change in attitude to prevent the difficulties in the future. In this workshop, learn the most effective discipline that puts boundaries in place without building walls between you and your child.
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PARENTS’ NIGHT | WORKSHOP | SEMINAR
In our highly competitive society, it’s no wonder that an estimated 25% of children suffer from an anxiety disorder, putting them at a higher risk to perform poorly in school, suffer social and emotional instability, and engage in substance abuse. Unless addressed, childhood anxiety can lead to clinical depression in adulthood. This workshop provides an in-depth look at an alternative perspective on prevention rather than treatment.
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PARENTS’ NIGHT | WORKSHOP | SEMINAR
Recognizing we need to help our children develop esteem for others and respect for themselves, four stages of child development, each with two “soul questions” that children need satisfied, are explained in this discussion-based workshop. Parents will identify the root causes of struggles in their children from birth to young adulthood. Clear goals and best training methods are defined that enable parents to help their children grow in maturity and responsibility.
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FOR PARENTS, GRANDPARENTS, AND GUARDIANS
Jill shines the light of reality on the failed self-esteem philosophy so parents can gently “bump” their children off self-center. Parents are equipped to instill an others-centered heart and a healthy self-respect in their children. Jill will help you discover how to:
• Meet your children’s needs, not their wants.
• Educate your children’s hearts in forgiveness, generosity and compassion.
• Offer children an “others-centered” approach to life rather than a self-centered one.
• Build family togetherness.
• Make a difference in the world.
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FOR MOMS AND DADS
Betrayed? Abandoned? Terrified? In this most personal presentation, Jill helps you learn how to allow God to reorder your priority list when your circumstances change. If you put yourself on the top of your list, that’s telling God you can take care of yourself. Jill tried many times to put herself on the top of her priority list after her husband left home. God made His truth perfectly clear—He would take care of her, if she kept her eyes on Him. Scripture tells us in Psalm 68 that “God will take care of the fatherless children and the widows, too.” A single parent is always on the top of God’s priority list. Allow Him to help you:
• Learn the antidote for bitterness.
• Find a safe place for feelings of anger and disappointment in you and your children.
• Cultivate the desire to extend the love of Christ to the one who has broken your heart.
• Learn how to grow into a new future God has planned for you.
Heart of the Family
Weekend
In the three sessions offered during this weekend event, parents learn practical advice that will equip them to raise children with self-respect who will affect the world for good rather than become infected by it. Parents will learn how to:
Replace self-esteem with self-respect as their parenting goal.
Establish their home on a foundation of respect to counteract outside influences.
Coach not cheerlead their children.
Use effective discipline rather than ineffective punishment.
Champion respect by striving to be the persons they want their children to become.
Instead of magnifying children’s innate self-esteem, parents learn how to help their children see beyond themselves to esteem others. In the process, their children will develop humble hearts filled with respect and resiliency, which is what they truly need to succeed in life.
Testimonials
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“I wish there had been more. Two hours of Jill were not enough. Hands were still raised after a half hour of questions following her talk.”
Livermore, CA
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“I was so blessed by Jill’s insights into healing after divorce. I had been consumed with bitterness.”
Dallas, TX
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"I feel like I just had blinders taken from my eyes. I now see why my relationship with my son is so damaged and his heart is so hard toward me. I have been harshly punishing him out of anger and fear, and not disciplining with love.”
Shawnee, OK
Resources for Parents
Book of the Month
Jill’s book recommendations for parents from her personal collection.
Proverbial Parenting
Words of wisdom for your parenting journey.